Appreciate Kindness By Being Kind Too

It feels great to give or at least it should!
I think that I've always been a kind person. It's innate and I'm thankful for that.
It is also at times a conscious decision to be kind and it's really because, I think we are here to not only help ourselves, but to help others when we are in a position to help.
With that being said, don't be the person who keeps taking from someone kind and never giving; kind and idiot are not synonymous. I'm kind, but I'm not fool and I'm no weakling.

It is important to note that we are in a society and system that is mostly self serving. Why then would anyone try to abuse someone's kindness? Doesn't everyone like the feeling of receiving something good?- a hug, words of advice, money, a ride home etc.
My thinking is that if I know how good it feels to receive, let me then give to someone else, so then can have that good feeling too.

I've noticed that there are some who appreciate my kindness truly and there are some who just take take and take some more.
You must understand that I'm a very in tune person. I know who you are. The thing is I know that what I put out in the universe is ultimately what I will receive whether in this life or the next!

With that being said, even the kindest person will turn away from giving to you if  all you do is take and never give back when you are in a postion to give.
Besides to show kindness is to show love...

“The great acts of love are done by those who are habitually performing small acts of kindness.”
Victor Hugo

There Is Power In Our Voices

Every time a black person gets vocal or takes action against racism or encourages us to rebel against a system that is not for us and yet we surprise them by standing, refusing to stay down, the same people who created racism try to say we are racist or reverse racism; which is certainly not a thing, but, I challenge you to look at the definition of racism as defined in the dictionary and tell me how a black person can be such.

You must understand that when we say rise up against the system, we are putting ourselves on the front lines, visible, hence a risk to our own lives. It is often times brave to stand because it's easier to sit in this system and silence is golden, so it can be bought and many will sell it for the right price! 

There is power in my voice. There is power in your voice! There is power in our voices. 

He Loves Her In Private, She Loves Him Out Loud

 In her desperation to prove a point, she ran to a love that's more accepted simply based on gender roles.

She passed up on the one who wanted her to see that's she's a queen and not a bitch, a bad bitch.

She ran to a cheater, dealer, who calls women bitches and hoes but ,it's ok if she's his bitch even though, several others seem to claim that same title with him.
 She will keep giving him chances because she loves him and he's a man and men will be men, so it hurts to know he messes with other women but she loves him.

He's a man so her  family and friends will accept him. It's the societal norm... she won't ever have to question her sexuality with him and she won't have to explain anything to them.

Yea he's a cheater and a dealer but the sex is good. The sex is good. He's a bad boy, but she sees good in him. She will be the one to change him.

Plus, in a ways she knows she's paying for past sins, messing with other men before him who she knew were in relationships and such..

He doesn't celebrate her. He hides her. She brags about him. She cooks for him. She'll do anything for him. He hides her. She loves him. He plays her. She loves him. He sexes her. He loves her in private. She loves him out loud. He hides her.

It's not that he's private; it's that there's other women. He lies to her but she loves him....even though...

The Wolf Doesn't Always Come In Sheep Clothing

As a matter of fact, sometimes a wolf is bold enough to be just what it is, a wolf!

Maya Angelou said, "when someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time"

Let me say, everyone makes mistakes and we have all done things that we have been less than proud of?

The question is, are we continuing to do those things?

Did we learn from them?

Are we striving to be better everyday?

Ok now let get back to why I'm writing this particular blog piece.

Ah yes, people will show you who they are, simply pay attention.

I had someone once say to me, lately she's been going towards the things and people that she know is bad for her.

This is someone who would be considered a peer in some ways.

Okay, so it seems I'm judging a bit, maybe, but it's really pointing out an observation .

So if you decide to go for the guy who refers to women as bitches and hoes and refers to you as his bitch, does that come across someone who respects women?

If you go for the guy in his 30s whose only source of income is selling drugs, does that seem promising?

If you fall for the guy who posts about having side chicks and cheating, does that seem promising!

This person has boldly shown you who they are, so maybe deep down inside, you want to be hurt.

Perhaps you don't think you deserve to be treated like a Queen and not a "bad bitch"

No sympathy! It sounds harsh.

I've fallen for the wolf in sheep clothing!

The sweet talking lover.

The hold the door open for you lover.

The poem writing lover.

The I cooked dinner for you lover.

The I promise you forever lover.

These days, most people seem to pretend to be what they are not.

I'm being skeptical? Maybe? My experience is telling me that I'm not so far fetched in my thinking.

Prove me wrong, I wouldn't mind being wrong in this case.

So when someone shows you who they are.... 

What are you going to do with that information?